The course will commence in March 2017.
1st Intensive Practicum 23 – 25 March
2017
2nd Intensive Practicum * July 2017
3rd Intensive Practicum * November
2017
4th Intensive Practicum * March 2018
* 8 days of supervision
* Dates to
be confirmed in consultation with participants during class in March 2017
Monday, October 19, 2015
Course Fees
The course fee of Rm 3,800.00 for the CSSBT training programme will cover the entire
course, & include handouts & notes required for the course (excluding Rm 150.00
examination fee). The course fee is payable in two installments of Rm 1,900.00 per
installment. The first installment of Rm 1,900.00 is payable upon registration & before
the commencement of the course in March 2017. The second installment of Rm
1,900.00 is payable in July 2017 before the commencement of the 2nd Intensive
Practicum.
*Fees already paid are not refundable should the participant fail to
complete or drop out of the program before its completion.
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Training Venue & Accommodation
For outstation students, accommodation (limited places on a first come basis) is available at the training venue at Rm 50.00 per night per person.
Training Venue: 41 Jalan Hujan Batu 3
Overseas Union Garden
58200 Kuala Lumpur
Class size
Due to the intensive nature of the training program, the intake for the CSSBT-14 (M) programme is limited to 15 students. Places on the CSSBT course will be on a first-come basis for successful applicants.
For more information and enquiries kindly contact Warren Tan (S’pore) 65-6388 6538 Mobile & Whatsapp: 65-9631-3814 E-mail: warrentan2@gmail.com
Mailing Address
Choice Makers Consultancy
136 Rivervale Street
#12-742
Singapore 540136
For outstation students, accommodation (limited places on a first come basis) is available at the training venue at Rm 50.00 per night per person.
Training Venue: 41 Jalan Hujan Batu 3
Overseas Union Garden
58200 Kuala Lumpur
Class size
Due to the intensive nature of the training program, the intake for the CSSBT-14 (M) programme is limited to 15 students. Places on the CSSBT course will be on a first-come basis for successful applicants.
For more information and enquiries kindly contact Warren Tan (S’pore) 65-6388 6538 Mobile & Whatsapp: 65-9631-3814 E-mail: warrentan2@gmail.com
Mailing Address
Choice Makers Consultancy
136 Rivervale Street
#12-742
Singapore 540136
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Detailed Description
SATIR BRIEF THERAPY TRAINING PROGRAMME CERTIFICATE IN SATIR
SYSTEMIC BRIEF THERAPY (CSSBT-14 (M))
The above part-time (14th Run) 12 months (CSSBT-14)
training program offered by Choice Makers Consultancy, is designed for both lay
& professional counselors in Malaysia. The program is modelled after the
well received part-time 18 months Post Graduate
Diploma in Satir Systemic Brief Therapy (DSSBT) Training Program for
professional counselors, therapists & social workers in Singapore.
The trainer for this Certificate
Course is Warren Tan, a
Malaysian residing in Singapore. Warren has over 30 years of experience in the
field of refugee work, social work, counseling & family therapy. He is
currently in private practice as a Marriage & Family Therapist and Trainer
for lay & professional counselors & therapists in Malaysia &
Singapore. He has also conducted training for NGO’s in Thailand, Indonesia, the
Philippines, Cambodia & Vietnam. Apart from seeing clients for therapy in
Singapore and Malaysia, Warren also provides clinical supervision for both lay
& professional counselors & social workers in Singapore &
Malaysia. A practitioner in the Satir Model of Brief Therapy, as a therapist
and trainer, he also conducts various workshops & seminars for the general
public. Workshop topics include stress & conflict management, marriage
enrichment, parenting, pre-marital preparation etc. Warren specializes in
treating couples with marital problems (eg. extra-marital affairs), and those
who are depressed or suicidal. He also treats clients who have phobias and
trauma victims. Professionally he is a clinical member of the American
Association for Marriage & Family Therapy (AAMFT) & the Satir Institute
of the Pacific (Canada), a certified traumatologist (US) and a certified TJTA
instructor & administrator.
What is so unique
about this Certificate program?
The Certificate in Satir Systemic Brief Therapy is
especially designed for lay & professional counselors in Malaysia who in
spite of their professional training or lack of training, would like to learn
to be more skillful & effective in helping their clients. Participants
could either be teachers, coaches, mentors, pastors, priests or nuns, Christian
leaders, ministry staff in churches or para-church organizations, or volunteers
and full time staff with NGO’s eg. counseling centres, schools, drug
rehabilitation centres, halfway houses, homes for children/elderly etc. or any
individual who is interested in their own personal growth as well as that of helping
others when the opportunity presents itself.
Warren has conducted numerous 2 day training workshops in
counseling for lay & professional counselors & social workers from
churches & NGOs in Malaysia since 1997 eg. BCM, DUMC, FGA, Glad Tidings, SIBKL, The Shelter, Focus on the Family (M’sia), BCM, Woman’s Aid Organisation (WAO),
Sau Seng Nam hospital, UPM & UCSI amongst others.
These workshops have been well received for their practical
& practice orientated approach. Much of the current counselling courses
taught at local universities are understandably academic in nature. Clinical
supervision, which allows for systematic guidance, practice, and learning in
applying theoretical & conceptual knowledge to actual counseling
situations in the Malaysian context, are unfortunately either not given
sufficient emphasis and time, or are absent altogether from some of the current
courses available. There is also a lack of experienced and qualified
practitioners-cum-clinical supervisors in Malaysia who are invaluable in
providing supervision and guiding counselors in their personal growth, skills development and
practice.
The CSSBT-14 (M)
Satir Systemic Brief Therapy Training Program is especially designed to
provide effective hands-on systematic training for counselors, para-counselors
& other helping professionals. From Warren’s years of experience in the
education & training of counselors, he has found that the most
effective approach to training confident and competent lay or professional
counselors is to combine the imparting of the knowledge & principles of
counseling psychology with a robust on-going counseling practicum; i.e.
systematic clinical supervision and guidance. A lot of attention and time in the course will be given to
the personal growth of the counselor. Both the personal and professional growth
of the counselor-in-training are given the emphasis required in this training program. The Certificate in Satir Systemic Brief Therapy (CSSBT) seeks firstly to
encourage those who find it rewarding to help others, to stay or go into the
people-helping vocation. Secondly it seeks to give lay ad professional counselors the
rewarding experience of being able to make a positive difference in the lives
of clients they see. The three main goals of this course is to help course participants grow in CONFIDENCE, COMPETENCE & CONGRUENCE at both the
personal and professional level.
Mode of training
The above program is person-skills-based, with emphasis on
growing the person of the counselor and in the practical application of the
Satir Brief Therapy Model in the counseling room. It is for professional
counselors as well as lay counsellors who are involved as people-helpers where
counseling skills are required, who wished to be better equipped, more
confident, more congruent and more competent in helping their clients. Warren
will utilize a combination of lecturettes, small group discussions, structured
exercises, live demonstrations with clients & participants, experiential
learning, skills practice sessions and video tape presentations of his sessions
with clients as part of the training. Warren who is also the clinical
supervisor for the program, will supervise students during the entire 12 months
duration of the program in the application of the Satir Model of Brief Therapy
with clients in the Malaysian context. Except for scheduled breaks, clinical
supervision for students will be offered at regular intervals throughout the
entire duration of the 12 months training. Participants are required to attend
a total of 12 days (3 days x 4 times) of intensive (7 hours) day long training
during the 12 months programme. Students will be required to meet for clinical
supervision at regular intervals once every 1-2 months for 6 hours of
clinical supervision & feedback sessions.
SATIR SYSTEMIC BRIEF
THERAPY TRAINING PROGRAM CSSBT-14 (M)
Duration: 12 months, commencing 23 March 2017
This training program is for professional & lay &
para-counselors, whose work on either a voluntary or full time capacity
requires them to counsel people who come to them with their problems &
difficulties.
The focus of the program will be systemic brief therapy to
bring about transformational change. The approach will be systemic, and is applicable to working with individuals, couples and families.
The trainer & supervisor Warren Tan, will utilise a
combination of lecturettes, small group discussions, video tapes, structured
exercises, live demonstrations, experiential learning and skill practice
sessions in the training.
The program will provide some hands-on skill development
opportunities during the intensive teaching workshops & supervision
sessions. Participants will be required to apply personally &
professionally what they have learnt in between the intensive teaching Class time, in order to get the most out of the training. Participants will also
be taught how to work with their own two generational family of origin maps to
further increase their personal/professional learning and to fulfill the course’s written
assignment requirement.
Participants will be encouraged to add to their own
experience and uniqueness in developing their skills in working with
individuals, couples & families.
Much therapy of the past has been focused changing a
client’s behaviour. Satir’s systemic brief therapy is focused on bringing about
change at the level of the being or self, as well as changes in doing,
feelings, expectations, perceiving and yearnings. This process taps the
universal yearnings of individuals within their personal, family and social
systems and helps them work toward a sense of responsible wholeness. The
process requires that the counselor themselves seeks to develop an acceptable
level of professional competence and personal congruence.
This Training Program will help participants:
1. Learn to connect & engage clients at the level of
being in order to create openness and
healing.
healing.
2. Understand and incorporate the basic therapeutic belief
system of the Satir Model in
therapy.
therapy.
3. Learn how to use experiential process throughout their
counseling sessions.
4. Surface, identify and change client’s communication and
coping patterns to one that is
more effective and congruent.
more effective and congruent.
5. Prepare client’s family maps (genogram) and surface
dysfunctional personal and family
dynamics and resolve unfinished business from the past.
dynamics and resolve unfinished business from the past.
6. Transform client’s problems into positively directional
goals to bring about positive
outcomes.
outcomes.
7. Learn the Satir process of therapeutic change.
8. Help clients surface, access, accept, and utilise their
internal strengths and resources to
change and grow.
change and grow.
9. Learn how to change and transform family rules that
diminish client’s self-esteem.
10. Help client raise their self-esteem and increase their
choice making possibilities.
11. Map the internal process of clients (Iceberg) and help
them change their behaviours,
feelings, perceptions, expectations, yearnings & self.
feelings, perceptions, expectations, yearnings & self.
12. Help client reduce and resolve the negative impact of
past events and experiences.
13. Help client integrate and anchor the positive changes.
14. Learn how to deal with different types of presenting
problems.
15. Learn how to help individuals, couple & as well as
families.
16. Become more confident, effective and congruent
counselors through using the Satir
Model of Brief Therapy.
Model of Brief Therapy.
Satir Systemic Brief Therapy Training Program CSSBT-14 (M)
(Course Outline)
The Satir Model: A
Systemic Approach
1. Overview of the program & participant’s individual
learning goals.
2. Satir’s therapeutic beliefs and goals.
3. Application of Satir’s therapeutic beliefs and goals.
4. Personal Iceberg Metaphor.
5. The Iceberg Metaphor – as Assessment & Intervention
tool.
6. Five As of the therapeutic change process.
The Satir Coping Stance & Family of Origin Maps
1. Satir’s 4 major coping stances.
2. Demonstrate intervention skills through sculpting coping
stances of a family.
3. Externalizing the internal coping process.
4. Doing family of origin maps: A two generational window.
5. Family maps - impact from the past in present coping.
6. Surfacing resources and patterns of coping.
7. Using family history in therapy.
The initial Interview: Preparing for change
1. Connecting and engaging clients for change.
2. Assessing the presenting problem.
3. Goal setting - sessional, short term & long term
goals.
4. Focusing the problem into a positively directional goal.
5. Getting commitment for change.
6. Assessing the iceberg & what needs to change.
7. Demonstrating the initial session.
8. Bringing transformational change in therapy.
Resolving Unfinished “Business” of the Past: Family Rules
& Patterns
1. The role of the therapist.
2. Transforming rules using the iceberg.
3. Surfacing individual and family process.
4. Using process questions for diagnosis and assessment.
5. Demonstration of process questions.
6. Using stances to assess the internal process.
7. Skill development.
Resolving Unfinished “Business” of the Past: Working on
Change
1. Changing three types of expectations.
2. Reframing perceptions.
3. Owning and changing feelings, especially anger, hurt and
fear.
4. Changing the impact, not the event.
5. Empowering the victim instead of the event.
6. Skill development.
Therapy with individuals, couples & families
1. Individual therapy.
2. Couple Therapy.
3. Family Therapy.
4. Demonstrate & practice individual/couple/family
therapy.
5. Practice family therapy with individuals using process
questions and the Iceberg.
Therapy with clients with the following presenting problems
1. Anger issues.
2. Depression.
3. Marital conflict, spousal violence, divorce and
extra-marital affairs.
4. Parenting issues
with young children & teens.
5. Addiction – substance abuse, pornography, internet
addiction.
6. Suicidal ideations and attempts.
7. Learning how to bring changes at the level of the being
(SELF).
8. Skill development.
Case Presentation and Supervision
Participants will have an opportunity to present their cases
during class & for supervision, have it reviewed through either a
demonstration or case discussion, and receive feedback from the trainer and the group. Skills development practice will be included in the process.
Emphasis throughout the program will be to help
participants grow the 3 Cs, namely Confidence, Competence and Congruence. There
will be equal emphasis on personal & professional growth in the program.
There will be opportunity to address the individual learning needs of the
participants.
Requirement for award
of Certificate in Satir Systemic Brief Therapy (CSSBT-14)
1. 132 hours comprising:
a) Trio & Group Supervision (6 x 8) 48 hrs
b) Intensive Teaching (7 x 12) 84 hrs
Total 132 hrs
a) Trio & Group Supervision (6 x 8) 48 hrs
b) Intensive Teaching (7 x 12) 84 hrs
Total 132 hrs
2. To graduate, students must clock no less than 80%
attendance of the total 84 hrs of
intensive teaching (ie. 67.2 hrs) and not less than 75% attendance of the total 48 hrs of
supervision (ie. 36 hrs).
intensive teaching (ie. 67.2 hrs) and not less than 75% attendance of the total 48 hrs of
supervision (ie. 36 hrs).
3. To clock a minimum of 20 client contact hour during sessions with 3
different clients.
4. Submission of a written assignment on your Family of
Origin (12-18 pages) at the end of
the course.
the course.
5. Oral examination at the end of the course.
6. Supervision
a) Participants will meet as a class for 6 hours duration
but will take turns to present their
cases for supervision.
cases for supervision.
b) Emphasis at supervision will be on the understanding
& application of the Satir Model in
therapy with clients. Participants will have the opportunity to present & discuss cases
where they have attempted to or are attempting to apply the Satir Model.
therapy with clients. Participants will have the opportunity to present & discuss cases
where they have attempted to or are attempting to apply the Satir Model.
c) Supervision will take the form of a combination of
discussion, live demonstration
sessions with students or clients & viewing of video tapes of counseling sessions, case
presentation & discussion, practice sessions.
sessions with students or clients & viewing of video tapes of counseling sessions, case
presentation & discussion, practice sessions.
7. The course shall run from: 2017 March April May
2017 June
July Aug
2017 Sept Oct Nov
2017 Dec
2018 Jan Feb March
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Virginia Satir is internationally recognised for her
creativity in the practice of family therapy. Based on a conviction that people
are capable of continued growth, change and new understanding, her goal was to
improve relationships and communication within the family unit.
She was not
only a great therapist, but also an educator and a writer. One of her
significant publications, “Conjoint Family Therapy” is widely used as a text in
universities and institutions. It is regarded as the ‘bible’ in family therapy,
and has translation of over twenty languages including Chinese. Her other books
include People Making, Making Contact, Your Many Faces, Self Esteem and The New
People Making (revised shortly before her death, probably the clearest and most
inclusive description of family life available). She has also co-authored a
number of books.
Virginia was the co-founder of the world famous Mental
Research Institute (MRI) in California, and had close professional association
with the world’s other pioneer therapists, Jay Haley, Murray Bowen, Salvador
Minuchin, Eric Berne, Fritz Pearls and many others.
She was also founder of two
international training organisations: the International Human Resources Network
and the Avanta Network. Virginia was highly recognised for her contribution to
humanity. She was awarded Honorary Doctorate and Gold Medal of ‘Outstanding and
Consistent Service to mankind’ from the University of Chicago in 1976, and
Honorary Doctorate from the University of Wisconsin in 1978. In 1982, Virginia
was selected by the government of West Germany as one of the twelve most
influential leaders in the world. In 1983, she was elected as the President of
the Association of Humanistic Psychology. In 1986, she was selected as a member
of the International Councils of Elders, a Society developed by the recipients
of the Nobel Peace Prize.
Referred to as the ‘Columbus of Family Therapy’ and
‘everybody’s family therapist’, Virginia Satir stayed at the forefront of human
growth and family therapy until her death in 1988.
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About Warren
Warren
Tan B.Soc.Sc. (M’sia), M.S.W. (Hong Kong), Dip Clinical Sup(Canada), PGD Satir
(FamilyTherapy) Canada, Cert Traumatology (US), MFT (US)
Warren is currently a
marriage & family therapist in private practice and sees individuals,
couples and families for therapy. He specialises in helping clients with
marital issues, loss and grief issues, and those who are depressed or suicidal
and in the treatment of traumas & phobias. A much sought after counsellor,
trainer and clinical supervisor in Malaysia & Singapore, he does clinical
supervision and training for lay & professional counsellors and social
workers. He also does workshops for the general public on topics such as
parenting, marriage enrichment & premarital preparation & stress
management. He maintains a clientele for therapy in Singapore & Kuala
Lumpur. In Singapore amongst others his clients include Nanyang Technological University
(NTU), National Institute of Education (NIE), The Ministry of Education (MOE),
The S’pore Armed Forces (SAF), S’pore Prisons Services, Hospitals, NGOs,
religious organizations & Family Service Centres (FSC). In Malaysia since
1997 he has conducted training for churches eg. BCM, FGA, SIBKL, DUMC, Glad Tidings
amongst others, & NGOs & universities eg. The Shelter, Women’s Aid
Organisation (WAO), Focus On The Family, UPM & UCSI university, Sau Seng
Nam Hospital amongst others.
For more than 30 years, Warren has had the
opportunity to live & work in Hong Kong, Malaysia & Singapore. He has
worked in a variety of settings & in varied capacities as a social worker,
agency head, team leader, therapist, supervisor & trainer. His varied
clientele included Vietnamese refugees & asylum seekers in detention
centres & refugee camps in Hong Kong, university students & families in
Malaysia, and for several years with disabled children & their families,
couples with marital conflicts, families with parenting issues etc. in
Singapore & Malaysia. He has also conducted training for religious
organisations & NGOs in Thailand, Indonesia, the Philippines, Cambodia
& Vietnam.
Warren is a clinical member of the American Association for
Marriage & Family Therapy (AAMFT) & the Satir Institute of the Pacific,
BC, Canada & is a certified instructor & administrator in the
Taylor-Johnson Temperament Analysis (T-JTA). He is also a certified
Traumatologist (US). He is now Director for Training for Choice Makers
Consultancy (S’pore), a Family Therapist with Raffles Counselling Centre
(Raffles Hospital, S’pore) & Human Dynamics, and a former part-time Family
Therapist with Eagles Mediation & Counselling Centre, Rotary Family Service
Centre & TRANS Centre (S’pore). Warren is married to Sara and they have a
son & daughter age 30 & 28.
For counselling appointments, consultation,
referrals & enquiries in S’pore or KL: E-mail: warrentan2@gmail.com Mobile & Whatsapp:
65-9631-3814 Tel: 65-6388 6538
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CSSBT - 14
Solutions arrived at
that do not go beyond mere behavioral changes either for ourselves or for
people we are helping are often short-lived. Another set of undesirable
behavior recurs no sooner after the first one has been "fixed". All behaviors
serve a purpose. Identifying the purpose/s of undesirable behaviors is the key
to changing the undesirable behavior/s. In this part-time 12 months Satir Model
course you will learn how to go deeper to identify and surface the conscious
& unconscious needs & purposes of behaviors in order to bring about
effective changes both for you and for your clients. The 12 months course is
designed to contribute to both your personal growth as well as enhance your
professional growth as a counsellor.
Warren has more than
30 years of experience in helping individuals, couples and families with a wide
variety of presenting problems, from relationship, parenting & marital
issues, to trauma, phobia, addiction, depression & suicidal ideation etc.
For details of the course or to sign up, please refer to the information
attached. Places are limited on a first come basis. Would appreciate if you can
help to share the information with those who might be interested or can
benefit.
We make a living from
what we get. We make a life from what we give - Winston Churchill
Course
Title: Certificate in Satir Systemic Brief Therapy CSSBT-14
Duration:
Part-time 12 months (March 2017 – March 2018)
Commencement
Date: 23–25 March 2017
Training
Venue: 41 Jalan Hujan Batu 3
Overseas Union Garden
58200 Kuala Lumpur
Participants:
Professional & Lay Counselors, Social Workers & other people-helpers
Organiser:
Choice Makers Consultancy
Trainer
& supervisor: Warren Tan
* For detail information or to sign up,
kindly refer to document attached or e-mail: warrentan2@gmail.com
Warren Tan B.Soc.Sc.
(M’sia), M.S.W. (Hong Kong), Dip Clinical Sup(Canada), PGD Satir
(FamilyTherapy) Canada, Cert Traumatology (US), MFT (US)
Warren Tan, the
trainer & clinical supervisor for the course is a well-known marriage &
family therapist/trainer in Singapore & Malaysia with over 30 years of
experience in this field. His hands-on practical &
practice-orientated approach to training has been well received by both lay and
professional counselors in both countries. Informal, creative &
engaging with a good sense of humor, he makes what is normally theoretical
& academic easy to understand and the class room learning enjoyable for his
participants. Warren has also provided training for NGOs in Thailand,
Cambodia, Indonesia, Vietnam & the Philippines.
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Satir Model training (Haiphong, Vietnam - 2009)
Learning about coping stances - placating stance |
Learning about coping stances - blaming stance |
Learning about coping stances - placating / blaming stance |
Some participants at the training |
Some participants at the training |
Market in Haiphong, Vietnam |
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Sunday, October 18, 2015
WALLS
WALLS
Prisons have walls
to keep in
to punish
to cut off
to isolate the inhabitants,
to protect those outside the walls
from those within the walls
People build walls
to protect themselves
to prevent others from connecting with them & from being connected
to prevent themselves from touching & from being touched
Fences are walls
they define by marking out, by excluding
they protect those inside from those outside
they differentiate
between what is mine & what is yours
Walls are made of bricks
they are made of silence
they are made of withdrawal from
they are made of anger, of hurt, of fear
they are made of avoidance
they are made of the need to punish
All Walls
isolate
prevent
cut off
shut out
…….meaningful contact……open -sharing….forgiveness…healing…….reconciliation……restoration.
©
Warren Tan 1997
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There's A Reason
I was always taught, there's a reason
That people do the things they do,
Though you may not always like them.
Their heart hides a secret from you.
If they're quick to bite your head off
Or constantly brag and boast,
Remember, the people we like the least
May need our love the most.
Could it be they had been abused
Or even ridiculed all their lives?
These are the type of hurtful things
That make sure their heart survives.
But, the heart that survives is hardened
And, on the seas of life, they coast.
Remember, the people we like the least
May need our love the most.
Copyright © 2003 by Claytia Doran
Though you may not always like them.
Their heart hides a secret from you.
If they're quick to bite your head off
Or constantly brag and boast,
Remember, the people we like the least
May need our love the most.
Could it be they had been abused
Or even ridiculed all their lives?
These are the type of hurtful things
That make sure their heart survives.
But, the heart that survives is hardened
And, on the seas of life, they coast.
Remember, the people we like the least
May need our love the most.
Copyright © 2003 by Claytia Doran
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Wisdom Box
The 5 As (elements) of Therapy
For change to take place in therapy, certain ingredients are
important as are certain sequences which help facilitate the change
process. The 5 As (elements) of therapy
below is sequential in that generally one follows the other, though not
strictly in a linear fashion. The
elements and sequence are also interactive as change in one of the As could
also support or bring about change in the other As.
- Awareness
- Acknowledgement
- Appreciation
- Acceptance
- Action
In therapy, therapists often seek to surface for their clients new awareness or insights. This is often a very important prelude to
change as it offers new possibilities for them to break out of their
stuckness. Previous understanding and
familiar ways of trying to cope and deal with their “problems” are not working
for them anymore and clients feel stuck and helpless. When new awareness and insights are surfaced,
clients typically go “ah-huh” or “now I see”; and generally there is a sense of
relief that there is now light at the end of the tunnel, even though the light
may still be a distance away.
When clients begin to be aware and see things differently, it is
important to help them acknowledge verbally what they have become aware
of. Some typical responses that show
their acknowledgement could be, “I
never knew I have contributed to….” or “I can now see why he/she felt that way
about….” or “If only I knew I would not / have….” etc. In acknowledging what they now are able to
see, clients often find it easier to take responsibility and ownership for
their own past behaviors and reactions.
This allows them to be open to the possibility of internal change.
With acknowledgement come also appreciation,
in terms of seeing the connection between how a problem became a problem and
stayed a problem and therefore what can be done to change that. It is important that appreciating why or how
a problem has remained a problem does not lead to blaming which basically
shifts the responsibility of change to someone else or to the situation as a
way or resolving the problem. Rather,
appreciating the connections between cause and effect in relation to the
problems they are experiencing, would allow clients to be more responsible for
themselves and to be better choice makers in terms of their reactions and
decisions.
Learning to appreciate how things have become the way they are will
make it easier for clients to accept the past without needing it to be
different, even if they did not like it.
Acceptance is another way of
letting go of the need to change people, events and experiences in the
past. It allows for the possibility of
seeing positive lessons learnt in the past that could become their resources
for their future. Instead of continuing
to direct (and waste) their energy and efforts to change their past, it allows
them to refocus their energy to what is possible and positive about their
future.
The above 4 elements and its sequences help clients to come to the
final A. That is to be free to act on their own behalf. It allows them to make more responsible and
better choices for themselves and for their future, instead of being dependent
on others or circumstances (through blaming or being a victim). While new awareness and insights allow
clients to see the light at the end of the tunnel so they do not lose hope, the
latter 4 As essentially help clients to eventually make their way out (by
making the necessary decisions / changes for themselves) of the dark tunnel to
embrace the light and be free. When
therapists consciously guide their clients experientially through the 5 As
(elements) of therapy, change is possible.
Change is a process and also a goal and test of effective therapy. The 5 As (elements) of therapy helps to make
change possible for clients.
©
2006 Warren Tan
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Survival Kit for Parents (With teenage children)
As a parent I need…
the ability
to laugh
at my children’s
antics;
the
time to share
their moments
of pride;
the need to praise
their separate
strengths;
the
faith to trust their
growing judgement;
the
patience to understand
their changing moods;
the
virtue to forgive
their disrespect;
the
openness to learn
their ways &
styles;
the
ears to hear
what they are saying;
the
insight to embrace
their doubts and fears;
the
tenderness to understand
their broken dreams;
And
wisdom to accept
That their lives are
built
Just one day at a time.
(Author Unknown)
© 2007 Warren Tan (Adapted from A Parent’s Prayer)
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