Monday, October 19, 2015

Commencement

The course will commence in March 2017. 

1st Intensive Practicum 23 – 25 March 2017 

2nd Intensive Practicum * July 2017 
3rd Intensive Practicum * November 2017 
4th Intensive Practicum * March 2018 
                                   * 8 days of supervision 

* Dates to be confirmed in consultation with participants during class in March 2017

Course Fees

The course fee of Rm 3,800.00 for the CSSBT training programme will cover the entire course, & include handouts & notes required for the course (excluding Rm 150.00 examination fee). The course fee is payable in two installments of Rm 1,900.00 per installment. The first installment of Rm 1,900.00 is payable upon registration & before the commencement of the course in March 2017. The second installment of Rm 1,900.00 is payable in July 2017 before the commencement of the 2nd Intensive Practicum. 

*Fees already paid are not refundable should the participant fail to complete or drop out of the program before its completion. 

Other Information

Training Venue & Accommodation

For outstation students, accommodation (limited places on a first come basis) is available at the training venue at Rm 50.00 per night per person.

Training Venue: 41 Jalan Hujan Batu 3
                           Overseas Union Garden
                           58200 Kuala Lumpur

Class size

Due to the intensive nature of the training program, the intake for the CSSBT-14 (M) programme is limited to 15 students. Places on the CSSBT course will be on a first-come basis for successful applicants.

For more information and enquiries kindly contact Warren Tan (S’pore) 65-6388 6538 Mobile & Whatsapp: 65-9631-3814 E-mail: warrentan2@gmail.com

Mailing Address
Choice Makers Consultancy
136 Rivervale Street
#12-742
Singapore 540136

Detailed Description

SATIR BRIEF THERAPY TRAINING PROGRAMME CERTIFICATE IN SATIR SYSTEMIC BRIEF THERAPY (CSSBT-14 (M))

The above part-time (14th Run) 12 months (CSSBT-14) training program offered by Choice Makers Consultancy, is designed for both lay & professional counselors in Malaysia. The program is modelled after the well received part-time 18 months Post Graduate Diploma in Satir Systemic Brief Therapy (DSSBT) Training Program for professional counselors, therapists & social workers in Singapore.

The trainer for this Certificate Course is Warren Tan, a Malaysian residing in Singapore. Warren has over 30 years of experience in the field of refugee work, social work, counseling & family therapy. He is currently in private practice as a Marriage & Family Therapist and Trainer for lay & professional counselors & therapists in Malaysia & Singapore. He has also conducted training for NGO’s in Thailand, Indonesia, the Philippines, Cambodia & Vietnam. Apart from seeing clients for therapy in Singapore and Malaysia, Warren also provides clinical supervision for both lay & professional counselors & social workers in Singapore & Malaysia. A practitioner in the Satir Model of Brief Therapy, as a therapist and trainer, he also conducts various workshops & seminars for the general public. Workshop topics include stress & conflict management, marriage enrichment, parenting, pre-marital preparation etc. Warren specializes in treating couples with marital problems (eg. extra-marital affairs), and those who are depressed or suicidal. He also treats clients who have phobias and trauma victims. Professionally he is a clinical member of the American Association for Marriage & Family Therapy (AAMFT) & the Satir Institute of the Pacific (Canada), a certified traumatologist (US) and a certified TJTA instructor & administrator.

What is so unique about this Certificate program?

The Certificate in Satir Systemic Brief Therapy is especially designed for lay & professional counselors in Malaysia who in spite of their professional training or lack of training, would like to learn to be more skillful & effective in helping their clients. Participants could either be teachers, coaches, mentors, pastors, priests or nuns, Christian leaders, ministry staff in churches or para-church organizations, or volunteers and full time staff with NGO’s eg. counseling centres, schools, drug rehabilitation centres, halfway houses, homes for children/elderly etc. or any individual who is interested in their own personal growth as well as that of helping others when the opportunity presents itself.

Warren has conducted numerous 2 day training workshops in counseling for lay & professional counselors & social workers from churches & NGOs in Malaysia since 1997 eg. BCM, DUMC, FGA, Glad Tidings, SIBKL, The Shelter, Focus on the Family (M’sia), BCM, Woman’s Aid Organisation (WAO), Sau Seng Nam hospital, UPM & UCSI amongst others.

These workshops have been well received for their practical & practice orientated approach. Much of the current counselling courses taught at local universities are understandably academic in nature. Clinical supervision, which allows for systematic guidance, practice, and learning in applying theoretical & conceptual knowledge to actual counseling situations in the Malaysian context, are unfortunately either not given sufficient emphasis and time, or are absent altogether from some of the current courses available. There is also a lack of experienced and qualified practitioners-cum-clinical supervisors in Malaysia who are invaluable in providing supervision and guiding counselors in their personal growth, skills development and practice.

The CSSBT-14 (M) Satir Systemic Brief Therapy Training Program is especially designed to provide effective hands-on systematic training for counselors, para-counselors & other helping professionals. From Warren’s years of experience in the education & training of counselors, he has found that the most effective approach to training confident and competent lay or professional counselors is to combine the imparting of the knowledge & principles of counseling psychology with a robust on-going counseling practicum; i.e. systematic clinical supervision and guidance. A lot of attention and time in the course will be given to the personal growth of the counselor. Both the personal and professional growth of the counselor-in-training are given the emphasis required in this training program. The Certificate in Satir Systemic Brief Therapy (CSSBT) seeks firstly to encourage those who find it rewarding to help others, to stay or go into the people-helping vocation. Secondly it seeks to give lay ad professional counselors the rewarding experience of being able to make a positive difference in the lives of clients they see. The three main goals of this course is to help course participants grow in CONFIDENCE, COMPETENCE & CONGRUENCE at both the personal and professional level.

Mode of training

The above program is person-skills-based, with emphasis on growing the person of the counselor and in the practical application of the Satir Brief Therapy Model in the counseling room. It is for professional counselors as well as lay counsellors who are involved as people-helpers where counseling skills are required, who wished to be better equipped, more confident, more congruent and more competent in helping their clients. Warren will utilize a combination of lecturettes, small group discussions, structured exercises, live demonstrations with clients & participants, experiential learning, skills practice sessions and video tape presentations of his sessions with clients as part of the training. Warren who is also the clinical supervisor for the program, will supervise students during the entire 12 months duration of the program in the application of the Satir Model of Brief Therapy with clients in the Malaysian context. Except for scheduled breaks, clinical supervision for students will be offered at regular intervals throughout the entire duration of the 12 months training. Participants are required to attend a total of 12 days (3 days x 4 times) of intensive (7 hours) day long training during the 12 months programme. Students will be required to meet for clinical supervision at regular intervals once every 1-2 months for 6 hours of clinical supervision & feedback sessions.

SATIR SYSTEMIC BRIEF THERAPY TRAINING PROGRAM CSSBT-14 (M)

Duration: 12 months, commencing 23 March 2017

This training program is for professional & lay & para-counselors, whose work on either a voluntary or full time capacity requires them to counsel people who come to them with their problems & difficulties.

The focus of the program will be systemic brief therapy to bring about transformational change. The approach will be systemic, and is applicable to working with individuals, couples and families.

The trainer & supervisor Warren Tan, will utilise a combination of lecturettes, small group discussions, video tapes, structured exercises, live demonstrations, experiential learning and skill practice sessions in the training.

The program will provide some hands-on skill development opportunities during the intensive teaching workshops & supervision sessions. Participants will be required to apply personally & professionally what they have learnt in between the intensive teaching Class time, in order to get the most out of the training. Participants will also be taught how to work with their own two generational family of origin maps to further increase their personal/professional learning and to fulfill the course’s written assignment requirement.

Participants will be encouraged to add to their own experience and uniqueness in developing their skills in working with individuals, couples & families.

Much therapy of the past has been focused changing a client’s behaviour. Satir’s systemic brief therapy is focused on bringing about change at the level of the being or self, as well as changes in doing, feelings, expectations, perceiving and yearnings. This process taps the universal yearnings of individuals within their personal, family and social systems and helps them work toward a sense of responsible wholeness. The process requires that the counselor themselves seeks to develop an acceptable level of professional competence and personal congruence.

This Training Program will help participants:

1. Learn to connect & engage clients at the level of being in order to create openness and
    healing.
2. Understand and incorporate the basic therapeutic belief system of the Satir Model in 
    therapy.
3. Learn how to use experiential process throughout their counseling sessions.
4. Surface, identify and change client’s communication and coping patterns to one that is
    more effective and congruent.
5. Prepare client’s family maps (genogram) and surface dysfunctional personal and family 
    dynamics and resolve unfinished business from the past.
6. Transform client’s problems into positively directional goals to bring about positive
    outcomes.
7. Learn the Satir process of therapeutic change.
8. Help clients surface, access, accept, and utilise their internal strengths and resources to
    change and grow.
9. Learn how to change and transform family rules that diminish client’s self-esteem.
10. Help client raise their self-esteem and increase their choice making possibilities.
11. Map the internal process of clients (Iceberg) and help them change their behaviours,
      feelings, perceptions, expectations, yearnings & self.
12. Help client reduce and resolve the negative impact of past events and experiences.
13. Help client integrate and anchor the positive changes.
14. Learn how to deal with different types of presenting problems.
15. Learn how to help individuals, couple & as well as families.
16. Become more confident, effective and congruent counselors through using the Satir 
      Model of Brief Therapy.  

Satir Systemic Brief Therapy Training Program CSSBT-14 (M) (Course Outline)

The Satir Model: A Systemic Approach
1. Overview of the program & participant’s individual learning goals.
2. Satir’s therapeutic beliefs and goals.
3. Application of Satir’s therapeutic beliefs and goals.
4. Personal Iceberg Metaphor.
5. The Iceberg Metaphor – as Assessment & Intervention tool.
6. Five As of the therapeutic change process.

The Satir Coping Stance & Family of Origin Maps
1. Satir’s 4 major coping stances. 
2. Demonstrate intervention skills through sculpting coping stances of a family.
3. Externalizing the internal coping process.
4. Doing family of origin maps: A two generational window.
5. Family maps - impact from the past in present coping.
6. Surfacing resources and patterns of coping.
7. Using family history in therapy.

The initial Interview: Preparing for change
1. Connecting and engaging clients for change.
2. Assessing the presenting problem.
3. Goal setting - sessional, short term & long term goals.
4. Focusing the problem into a positively directional goal.
5. Getting commitment for change.
6. Assessing the iceberg & what needs to change.
7. Demonstrating the initial session.
8. Bringing transformational change in therapy.

Resolving Unfinished “Business” of the Past: Family Rules & Patterns
1. The role of the therapist.
2. Transforming rules using the iceberg.  
3. Surfacing individual and family process.
4. Using process questions for diagnosis and assessment.
5. Demonstration of process questions.
6. Using stances to assess the internal process.
7. Skill development.

Resolving Unfinished “Business” of the Past: Working on Change
1. Changing three types of expectations.
2. Reframing perceptions.
3. Owning and changing feelings, especially anger, hurt and fear.
4. Changing the impact, not the event.
5. Empowering the victim instead of the event.
6. Skill development.

Therapy with individuals, couples & families
1. Individual therapy.
2. Couple Therapy.
3. Family Therapy.
4. Demonstrate & practice individual/couple/family therapy.
5. Practice family therapy with individuals using process questions and the Iceberg.

Therapy with clients with the following presenting problems
1. Anger issues.
2. Depression.
3. Marital conflict, spousal violence, divorce and extra-marital affairs.
4. Parenting issues with young children & teens.
5. Addiction – substance abuse, pornography, internet addiction.
6. Suicidal ideations and attempts.
7. Learning how to bring changes at the level of the being (SELF).
8. Skill development.

Case Presentation and Supervision

Participants will have an opportunity to present their cases during class & for supervision, have it reviewed through either a demonstration or case discussion, and receive feedback from the trainer and the group. Skills development practice will be included in the process.

Emphasis throughout the program will be to help participants grow the 3 Cs, namely Confidence, Competence and Congruence. There will be equal emphasis on personal & professional growth in the program. There will be opportunity to address the individual learning needs of the participants.  

Requirement for award of Certificate in Satir Systemic Brief Therapy (CSSBT-14)
1. 132 hours comprising: 
a) Trio & Group Supervision (6 x 8) 48 hrs
b) Intensive Teaching (7 x 12)         84 hrs 
                                    Total         132 hrs
2. To graduate, students must clock no less than 80% attendance of the total 84 hrs of 
    intensive teaching (ie. 67.2 hrs) and not less than 75% attendance of the total 48 hrs of 
    supervision (ie. 36 hrs).
3. To clock a minimum of 20 client contact hour during sessions with 3 different clients.
4. Submission of a written assignment on your Family of Origin (12-18 pages) at the end of 
    the course.
5. Oral examination at the end of the course.
6. Supervision
a) Participants will meet as a class for 6 hours duration but will take turns to present their
    cases for supervision.
b) Emphasis at supervision will be on the understanding & application of the Satir Model in 
    therapy with clients. Participants will have the opportunity to present & discuss cases 
    where they have attempted to or are attempting to apply the Satir Model.
c) Supervision will take the form of a combination of discussion, live demonstration
    sessions with students or clients & viewing of video tapes of counseling sessions, case
    presentation & discussion, practice sessions.


7. The course shall run from:  2017 March April May 
                                                2017 June July Aug 
                                                2017 Sept Oct Nov 
                                                2017 Dec 
                                                2018 Jan Feb March  

VIRGINIA SATIR (1916 - 1988) Originator of The Satir Model of Family Therapy 

Virginia Satir is internationally recognised for her creativity in the practice of family therapy. Based on a conviction that people are capable of continued growth, change and new understanding, her goal was to improve relationships and communication within the family unit. 

She was not only a great therapist, but also an educator and a writer. One of her significant publications, “Conjoint Family Therapy” is widely used as a text in universities and institutions. It is regarded as the ‘bible’ in family therapy, and has translation of over twenty languages including Chinese. Her other books include People Making, Making Contact, Your Many Faces, Self Esteem and The New People Making (revised shortly before her death, probably the clearest and most inclusive description of family life available). She has also co-authored a number of books. 

Virginia was the co-founder of the world famous Mental Research Institute (MRI) in California, and had close professional association with the world’s other pioneer therapists, Jay Haley, Murray Bowen, Salvador Minuchin, Eric Berne, Fritz Pearls and many others. 

She was also founder of two international training organisations: the International Human Resources Network and the Avanta Network. Virginia was highly recognised for her contribution to humanity. She was awarded Honorary Doctorate and Gold Medal of ‘Outstanding and Consistent Service to mankind’ from the University of Chicago in 1976, and Honorary Doctorate from the University of Wisconsin in 1978. In 1982, Virginia was selected by the government of West Germany as one of the twelve most influential leaders in the world. In 1983, she was elected as the President of the Association of Humanistic Psychology. In 1986, she was selected as a member of the International Councils of Elders, a Society developed by the recipients of the Nobel Peace Prize. 

Referred to as the ‘Columbus of Family Therapy’ and ‘everybody’s family therapist’, Virginia Satir stayed at the forefront of human growth and family therapy until her death in 1988. 

About Warren


Warren Tan B.Soc.Sc. (M’sia), M.S.W. (Hong Kong), Dip Clinical Sup(Canada), PGD Satir (FamilyTherapy) Canada, Cert Traumatology (US), MFT (US)

Warren is currently a marriage & family therapist in private practice and sees individuals, couples and families for therapy. He specialises in helping clients with marital issues, loss and grief issues, and those who are depressed or suicidal and in the treatment of traumas & phobias. A much sought after counsellor, trainer and clinical supervisor in Malaysia & Singapore, he does clinical supervision and training for lay & professional counsellors and social workers. He also does workshops for the general public on topics such as parenting, marriage enrichment & premarital preparation & stress management. He maintains a clientele for therapy in Singapore & Kuala Lumpur. In Singapore amongst others his clients include Nanyang Technological University (NTU), National Institute of Education (NIE), The Ministry of Education (MOE), The S’pore Armed Forces (SAF), S’pore Prisons Services, Hospitals, NGOs, religious organizations & Family Service Centres (FSC). In Malaysia since 1997 he has conducted training for churches eg. BCM, FGA, SIBKL, DUMC, Glad Tidings amongst others, & NGOs & universities eg. The Shelter, Women’s Aid Organisation (WAO), Focus On The Family, UPM & UCSI university, Sau Seng Nam Hospital amongst others. 

For more than 30 years, Warren has had the opportunity to live & work in Hong Kong, Malaysia & Singapore. He has worked in a variety of settings & in varied capacities as a social worker, agency head, team leader, therapist, supervisor & trainer. His varied clientele included Vietnamese refugees & asylum seekers in detention centres & refugee camps in Hong Kong, university students & families in Malaysia, and for several years with disabled children & their families, couples with marital conflicts, families with parenting issues etc. in Singapore & Malaysia. He has also conducted training for religious organisations & NGOs in Thailand, Indonesia, the Philippines, Cambodia & Vietnam. 

Warren is a clinical member of the American Association for Marriage & Family Therapy (AAMFT) & the Satir Institute of the Pacific, BC, Canada & is a certified instructor & administrator in the Taylor-Johnson Temperament Analysis (T-JTA). He is also a certified Traumatologist (US). He is now Director for Training for Choice Makers Consultancy (S’pore), a Family Therapist with Raffles Counselling Centre (Raffles Hospital, S’pore) & Human Dynamics, and a former part-time Family Therapist with Eagles Mediation & Counselling Centre, Rotary Family Service Centre & TRANS Centre (S’pore). Warren is married to Sara and they have a son & daughter age 30 & 28. 

For counselling appointments, consultation, referrals & enquiries in S’pore or KL: E-mail: warrentan2@gmail.com Mobile & Whatsapp: 65-9631-3814 Tel: 65-6388 6538

CSSBT - 14


Solutions arrived at that do not go beyond mere behavioral changes either for ourselves or for people we are helping are often short-lived. Another set of undesirable behavior recurs no sooner after the first one has been "fixed". All behaviors serve a purpose. Identifying the purpose/s of undesirable behaviors is the key to changing the undesirable behavior/s. In this part-time 12 months Satir Model course you will learn how to go deeper to identify and surface the conscious & unconscious needs & purposes of behaviors in order to bring about effective changes both for you and for your clients. The 12 months course is designed to contribute to both your personal growth as well as enhance your professional growth as a counsellor. 

Warren has more than 30 years of experience in helping individuals, couples and families with a wide variety of presenting problems, from relationship, parenting & marital issues, to trauma, phobia, addiction, depression & suicidal ideation etc. For details of the course or to sign up, please refer to the information attached. Places are limited on a first come basis. Would appreciate if you can help to share the information with those who might be interested or can benefit.



We make a living from what we get. We make a life from what we give - Winston Churchill



Course Title: Certificate in Satir Systemic Brief Therapy CSSBT-14 
Duration: Part-time 12 months (March 2017 – March 2018)
Commencement Date: 23–25 March 2017
Training Venue: 41 Jalan Hujan Batu 3
                             Overseas Union Garden
                             58200 Kuala Lumpur
Participants: Professional & Lay Counselors, Social Workers & other people-helpers
Organiser: Choice Makers Consultancy
Trainer & supervisor: Warren Tan      
     
* For detail information or to sign up, kindly refer to document attached or e-mail: warrentan2@gmail.com          

Warren Tan  B.Soc.Sc. (M’sia), M.S.W. (Hong Kong), Dip Clinical Sup(Canada), PGD Satir (FamilyTherapy) Canada, Cert Traumatology (US), MFT (US)

Warren Tan, the trainer & clinical supervisor for the course is a well-known marriage & family therapist/trainer in Singapore & Malaysia with over 30 years of experience in this field.  His hands-on practical & practice-orientated approach to training has been well received by both lay and professional counselors in both countries.  Informal, creative & engaging with a good sense of humor, he makes what is normally theoretical & academic easy to understand and the class room learning enjoyable for his participants.  Warren has also provided training for NGOs in Thailand, Cambodia, Indonesia, Vietnam & the Philippines.

Satir Model training (Haiphong, Vietnam - 2009)

Learning about coping stances -  placating stance 
Learning about coping stances - blaming stance

Learning about coping stances - placating / blaming stance 
Some participants at the training 
Some participants at the training 
Market in Haiphong, Vietnam


Sunday, October 18, 2015

Parenting 101



WALLS

WALLS

Prisons have walls
              to keep in
              to punish
              to cut off
              to isolate the inhabitants,
              to protect those outside the walls
              from those within the walls
People build walls
              to protect themselves
              to prevent others from connecting with them & from being connected
              to prevent themselves from touching & from being touched
Fences are walls
              they define by marking out, by excluding
              they protect those inside from those outside
              they differentiate between what is mine & what is yours
Walls are made of bricks
           they are made of silence
           they are made of withdrawal from
           they are made of anger, of hurt, of fear
           they are made of avoidance
           they are made of the need to punish
All Walls
                isolate
                      prevent
                            cut off
                                  shut out …….meaningful contact……open -sharing….forgiveness…healing…….reconciliation……restoration.                                        
                                                              
                                                                                                      
                                                                                          
© Warren Tan 1997

There's A Reason

I was always taught, there's a reason

That people do the things they do,
Though you may not always like them.
Their heart hides a secret from you.

If they're quick to bite your head off
Or constantly brag and boast,
Remember, the people we like the least
May need our love the most.

Could it be they had been abused
Or even ridiculed all their lives?
These are the type of hurtful things
That make sure their heart survives.

But, the heart that survives is hardened
And, on the seas of life, they coast.
Remember, the people we like the least
May need our love the most.

Copyright © 2003 by Claytia Doran

The 5 As (elements) of Therapy

For change to take place in therapy, certain ingredients are important as are certain sequences which help facilitate the change process.  The 5 As (elements) of therapy below is sequential in that generally one follows the other, though not strictly in a linear fashion.  The elements and sequence are also interactive as change in one of the As could also support or bring about change in the other As.
                                          
  1. Awareness
  2. Acknowledgement
  3. Appreciation
  4. Acceptance
  5. Action

In therapy, therapists often seek to surface for their clients new awareness or insights.  This is often a very important prelude to change as it offers new possibilities for them to break out of their stuckness.  Previous understanding and familiar ways of trying to cope and deal with their “problems” are not working for them anymore and clients feel stuck and helpless.  When new awareness and insights are surfaced, clients typically go “ah-huh” or “now I see”; and generally there is a sense of relief that there is now light at the end of the tunnel, even though the light may still be a distance away.

When clients begin to be aware and see things differently, it is important to help them acknowledge verbally what they have become aware of.   Some typical responses that show their acknowledgement could be, “I never knew I have contributed to….” or “I can now see why he/she felt that way about….” or “If only I knew I would not / have….” etc.  In acknowledging what they now are able to see, clients often find it easier to take responsibility and ownership for their own past behaviors and reactions.   This allows them to be open to the possibility of internal change. 

With acknowledgement come also appreciation, in terms of seeing the connection between how a problem became a problem and stayed a problem and therefore what can be done to change that.  It is important that appreciating why or how a problem has remained a problem does not lead to blaming which basically shifts the responsibility of change to someone else or to the situation as a way or resolving the problem.  Rather, appreciating the connections between cause and effect in relation to the problems they are experiencing, would allow clients to be more responsible for themselves and to be better choice makers in terms of their reactions and decisions.

Learning to appreciate how things have become the way they are will make it easier for clients to accept the past without needing it to be different, even if they did not like it.  Acceptance is another way of letting go of the need to change people, events and experiences in the past.  It allows for the possibility of seeing positive lessons learnt in the past that could become their resources for their future.  Instead of continuing to direct (and waste) their energy and efforts to change their past, it allows them to refocus their energy to what is possible and positive about their future.

The above 4 elements and its sequences help clients to come to the final A.  That is to be free to act on their own behalf.  It allows them to make more responsible and better choices for themselves and for their future, instead of being dependent on others or circumstances (through blaming or being a victim).  While new awareness and insights allow clients to see the light at the end of the tunnel so they do not lose hope, the latter 4 As essentially help clients to eventually make their way out (by making the necessary decisions / changes for themselves) of the dark tunnel to embrace the light and be free.  When therapists consciously guide their clients experientially through the 5 As (elements) of therapy, change is possible.  Change is a process and also a goal and test of effective therapy.  The 5 As (elements) of therapy helps to make change possible for clients.

© 2006 Warren Tan

Survival Kit for Parents (With teenage children)


As a parent I need…
the ability to laugh
at my children’s antics;
the time to share
their moments
of pride;
 the need to praise
their separate strengths;
the faith to trust their
growing judgement;
the patience to understand
their changing moods;
the virtue to forgive
their disrespect;
the openness to learn
their ways & styles;
the ears to hear
what they are saying;
the insight to embrace
their doubts and fears;
the tenderness to understand
their broken dreams;
And wisdom to accept
That their lives are built
Just one day at a time.
                                                                        
(Author Unknown)


© 2007 Warren Tan (Adapted from A Parent’s Prayer)